I have written before about how parents don't really get objective feedback on how they are doing. No one grades us or measures us or evaluates us. And while children can provide extensive subjective negative feedback ("you're a bad mommy!") they can also give us subjective positive feedback ("you're the best mommy!")
That's why I keep these stickers on my nightstand next to my bed.
|I'm on the right track|
My children get stickers at school, from their piano teacher, from the dentist, from the post office - everywhere - when they have done a good job. Stickers are praise incarnate. So when my then two-year-old presented me with kind little Percy he said, "Mommy, you did a good job," I knew he meant it.
Before I go to bed at night, I see these stickers. When I wake up in the morning, I see these stickers. And I feel pretty darn good.